How to increse your self-belief

At times, everybody struggles with believing in their abilities. I know for me, that not so many years ago my level of self-belief was at rock bottom.

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I had one friend and no social life, a dead end job with no prospects (which I understood when I took the job) and even though I’d always wanted to work for myself, I KNEW it would never be a reality, because I just wasn’t meant to be successful.

I was stuck in my ways, never asserted myself and never, ever went outside of my structured comfort zone!

I made the decision that if I wasn’t doing it already, I didn’t need to do it. When in reality, I didn’t do it because I didn’t think I could.

I still have days, even now, when I know I might fail, or won’t be the best I can be, but that’s okay. I’ve learnt that failing is a good thing and not being the best is okay too.

You see, it’s only by failing that we can grow and do better next time. It’s only by failing that we seek improvement. And it’s only by failing a lot that we can truly be the best we can be.

Every failure gives a lessonFailure is a strong word, but it really means not being perfect. Not always being right. Not needing everyone to accept what you’re saying without question and not having all of the answers to every dilema.

You need to fail to see where your weaknesses are. It’s the only way to truly learn how to be better and it’s an important part in achieving your dreams.

If you make a mistake, use the feedback it gives you to fix the problem. Then learn from the mistake and you’ve grown some more.

Achieving greater self belief is all about growing as an individual. The best way to grow?  Just go and try, learn from any mistakes and then try the newer, better version. See every mistake as an opportunity to learn and grow, then get back to trying!

Some ideas that will help you to grow and increase your self belief are;

  • Step slightly outside of your comfort zone every day. Push past your initial discomfort and see it as an opportunity to grow.
  • Accept that not every one will like you. You can’t please everybody, so why not concentrate on pleasing yourself?
  • Don’t listen to the negative self-talk that normally holds you back.
  • Try going into situations even when you’re not sure of the result and learn to be okay with that.
  • Remember that it’s alright to fail, that you can be okay in failure.

If you use these strategies on an ongoing basis, you’ll soon come to realize you’re much more capable than you thought you were.

get resultsFinally, remember that you’re stronger, more capable and more tolerant of initial discomfort than you think. And you won’t really know if you can do a thing, until you try. So, go out there and try, learn from any mistakes, then try again!

Before you know it, you beliefs about what you can achieve will improve dramatically 🙂

I’d love to hear about your successes, or if can help in anyway.


Steve, who's also the Founder of Teen Anxiety UK, has been writing books and articles about various aspects of Psychology since 2006.

For the last five years, he's main focus has been in helping build confidence and self-esteem.

His formal qualifications include Clinical Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy, NLP and CBT.

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