10 ways to increase self-esteem

What is Self-Esteem?

Simply put, it’s a person’s perception of their own worth, including how confident they are in their own abilities and how much they believe their opinion matters to others.

If your suffering from low self-esteem it becomes increasingly difficult for you to believe you’ll be a success at anything. Generally speaking, you’ll probably lack energy and motivation, constantly believing you’ll fail at everything you try.

Below you’ll find 10 tips to boosting you self-esteem and enhancing your confidence.

1. Volunteer some of your time.

When we support other people, it lifts our spirits and allows us to believe we can add value to the lives of others. Your volunteering doesn’t have to be grand, it may be something as simple as mowing a neighbours lawn, or helping out one day per week at a charity shop. As with everything in life, the more you give, the more you’ll receive.

2. Use better self-talk.

Instead of always using negative self-talk when things don’t go the way you planned, turn those negative comments into positive ones. eg. Instead of saying “Why can I never get this right?”, say to yourself, “Okay, what have I learned from this situation that will make it more likely I’ll succeed next time?”

3. Write down your successes.

Think back through your life and write down everything you’ve achieved and accomplished, everything you feel proud of. Keep this list somewhere you can look back on when you’re feeling down, or de-motivated.

4. Teach.

Not professionally, but share your knowledge and abilities with others. Proving to yourself that you’ve got knowledge worth sharing, will do wonders for you self-worth.

5. Continue learning.

Approach every situation with an open mind instead of a defeatist one and view everything as a learning experience. As long as you’re learning from a situation, you can never fail because by learning something, the experience has been beneficial.

6. Embrace your failures as a part of growth.

We all learn by our mistakes. In order to be successful, we need failures to help us grow. and become more resilient and focussed.

7. Redefine your standards for success.

Don’t make your rules for success unachievable. Celebrate all of the smaller successes you achieve and build upon those.

8. Stretch your abilities.

Try to step outside your comfort zone on a regular basis. Do things that feel slightly uncomfortable to you at the moment and use those experiences to push yourself further.

9. Set yourself smaller goals.

If you’re constantly chasing that BIG goal in life, you’re going to be disappointed on many occasions. It’s better to set yourself smaller, achievable goals that you can reach along the way to the big goal. Success breeds success, so the more you can experience of it, the better.

10. Be grateful.

Nothing builds self-confidence and self-esteem like gratitude. Be thankful for everything you have that’s good in your life. If you find it difficult to thing of anything good, concentrate on all of the little things, that less fortunate people would love to have; a loving family, good health, clean drinking water, the ability to provide for your family, a roof over your head, etc.

These 10 things should give you plenty to think about over the coming weeks. the trick is to take small steps to the bigger picture. Try to move too fast and the future seems daunting, but small steps can achieve greatness over time.

If you have any tips that you’d add to this list, let me know in the comments.

Steve, who's also the Founder of Teen Anxiety UK, has been writing books and articles about various aspects of Psychology since 2006.

For the last five years, he's main focus has been in helping build confidence and self-esteem.

His formal qualifications include Clinical Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy, NLP and CBT.

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